90 Days of Kindness

I was reading about the 90 Days of Kindness Challenge over at Along for The Ride, and was trying to think what area in my life could use some kindness.

Then I read this post on marriage, and it got me to thinking...

When was the last time I publicly complimented my husband or spoke glowingly about him in front of others?

Answer: I can't remember when. Actually I can't think of the last time I complimented him. Period.

When was the last time I went out of my way to show kindness (love) to my husband?

Answer: I was pregnant with our youngest son. I wrote him a letter, listing all the things that I loved about him, and put it in the pocket of his work-jacket. That was a year ago.

See how life gets busy, and you keep thinking that tomorrow, you'll make time for the people you love? They know you love them already, right? They know that you would, if you could, don't they?

Of course. I have a myriad of excuses. (Don't we all?) Looking after small kids is tiring. I don't have the energy. I'm busy trying to do right by my family, and cooking all my own food. That's time-consuming. Then there's my important mission that I'm terribly fired up over. And lets not forget the all-important blogging.

So much to do, so little time!

The thing is...sometimes the way we spend our time, doesnt always match what we say is important to us...

I believe that a healthy, loving, stable marriage is one of the greatest gifts I can give to my children.

But do my actions reflect that belief?

I guess not.

But all that's about to change! I'm taking on this 90 Days of Kindness challenge, and my husband is going to be the poor sod, er, lucky recipient of my attentions.

Every day, for 90 days, I will go out of my way to show kindness to my husband. Every day I will write down in my diary what I have done.

There's no point in my complaining about how un-romantic my husband is, when I am making no effort myself. It's time for me to be the change I want to see, in my marriage.